Hello there, my fellow imperfect beings! Are you ready to take a dive into the world of failures and come out resilient? Failure may seem like an obstacle in the path of success, but what if I told you it’s actually a shortcut? Yes, you read that right! Buckle up, entrepreneurs, business leaders, and small business owners, because I’m about to give you a guide to using failure as your stepping stone to success.
Now, let’s talk about failure.
It’s that one friend who always shows up uninvited and overstays their welcome, right? But what if you actually invited them in for some nachos and a good laugh? After all, they’re here to teach you some valuable life lessons – like how not to do things.
And let’s not forget about that pesky voice inside your head that whispers, “You can’t do it, you’re not good enough.” We all know that inner critic who loves to rain on our parade and hold us back from taking risks or sharing our ideas. It’s like a filter that we constantly run our thoughts through before speaking up.
In a college theatre class, I learned a helpful exercise to diminish the power of that inner critic. We visualized it as a physical entity standing in front of us and shouted “NO!” at it. With each shout, we imagined it shrinking smaller and smaller until it was the size of a penny. Then, we pretended to stomp on it, symbolizing our regained power over that negative voice.
While the inner critic may never completely disappear, we can take steps to reduce its influence on our lives. By acknowledging its presence and actively working to diminish its power, we can begin to take control of our thoughts and beliefs, and in turn, take bolder steps toward our goals.
Remember, even the most successful people have had their fair share of hilarious mishaps. I mean, have you ever heard about the time Thomas Edison accidentally electrocuted an elephant while trying to prove a point? Yikes. But hey, he also invented the light bulb, so there’s hope for us all!
So, how can we squeeze every last drop of wisdom from our delightfully disastrous failures? Here’s a step-by-step guide to laughing and learning through life’s calamities:
Here’s a step-by-step guide to laughing and learning through life’s calamities:
Embrace the flop: When you fail, don’t shy away from it. Instead, take a good, long look at what went wrong, and figure out how you can do better next time.
Find the silver lining: No matter how colossal the catastrophe, there’s always a nugget of wisdom to be found. So dig deep and uncover the lesson hidden within the chaos.
Practice self-compassion: Be kind to yourself when you fail. After all, everyone makes mistakes. Treat yourself with the same empathy you would offer a friend in a similar pickle.
Turn failure into fuel: Every time you stumble, use the experience as motivation to push yourself even harder. With each setback, you’re one step closer to success.
Share your story: Not only will sharing your failure with others help you process the experience, but it also makes for some truly hilarious storytelling. Plus, you’ll be spreading the wisdom and helping others learn from your missteps.
Failure may be a tough pill to swallow, but it doesn’t have to be. Instead of letting it drag you down, use it to your advantage. Laugh at your mistakes, find the lesson in your failures, and keep pushing towards success. Remember, success isn’t a destination, it’s a journey filled with fails and laughs. So, let’s embrace it!
Special Bonus Section
Here are some speakers who had some tough experiences but ultimately succeeded:
Tony Robbins: Although he’s now a world-renowned motivational speaker, Tony Robbins started out with some tough gigs. In one early talk, only six people showed up, and one of them walked out partway through. But Robbins didn’t give up, and eventually built a huge following.
Brene Brown: A few years ago, no one knew who Brene Brown was. Now, she’s a best-selling author and TED speaker with millions of fans around the world. But when Brown first started speaking about vulnerability, she admits that it didn’t go over well. She was called “touchy-feely” and “new age,” and some people even walked out of her talks. But Brown kept going, refining her message and honing her delivery and eventually found her voice.
Tim Ferriss: Before he wrote “The 4-Hour Workweek” and became a popular podcaster, Tim Ferriss struggled with public speaking. In fact, he was once booed offstage during a talk at Princeton. But he kept working on his craft, learning from his mistakes, and eventually became one of the most sought-after speakers in the world.
Jia Jiang: Jia Jiang is a motivational speaker who’s known for his work on rejection therapy. But when he was first starting out, he was terrified of rejection himself. To overcome his fear, he spent 100 days deliberately seeking out rejection, asking for things like free food at a restaurant or a ride in a police car. Although he was rejected many times, he also had some surprising successes, and his experience helped him become a more confident speaker and entrepreneur.
Lisa Nichols: Lisa Nichols is a motivational speaker and author who’s known for her work on self-esteem and personal development. But she didn’t start out that way. In fact, when she was first getting started as a speaker, Nichols was so nervous that she would throw up before every talk. But she kept going and eventually overcame her fear. Now, she’s one of the most popular speakers in the world, with millions of fans around the globe.
Mel Robbins: A motivational speaker who struggled with anxiety and self-doubt. She famously created the “5 Second Rule” to overcome procrastination and has since become a popular speaker and author.
Simon Sinek: Known for his inspiring TED talk “Start With Why,” Sinek struggled with stage fright early in his speaking career. He has since become a highly sought-after speaker and leadership expert.